It was front and center in a slide show of other people’s beautiful kitchen renovations: one of those artsy wooden “House Rules” signs. Rule Number 7, showcased in the biggest script of all and sandwiched between “Show compassion” and “Love each other” was this: “BE HAPPY.”

Admittedly, seeing that made me anything but. As a psychologist, I can’t help but wonder: Who in this world has ever gotten happy because someone else told them they have to be?